Excerpt from conversation with 8 year old son tonight.
First, let me set the scene. We just got home. It is nearly 9 o’clock at night. Somehow, instead of getting him into pajamas and bed, we are in the kitchen. He is at the table drawing a little stick figure comic story. I am making beet carrot juice. I just got off work. I’m combating head rushes and iron deficiency… I think.
We are talking about crushes. I have just admitted that yes, I did have crushes on people before I was a mother, and I might like to have a crush on someone again.
and then the darling boy said;
“Mum, if you ever decide to have a crush on someone again, I’d like it to be a boy not a girl, cause I already have you and 2 women would be too much to keep up with”
Those were his exact words. He looked up from his pencil and paper and said what I think is a most marvellous thing, maybe the coolest, cutest, most open minded thing I have heard an 8 year old say!….also making this the quote of the month. Or perhaps the year, seeing it is December, He doesn’t even know how marvellous it is!
I did tell him that I am proud of him for being so open and understanding, but he just stared at me, starting to realize the gravity of a mother capable of crushes, I think…
Also, I didn’t make any promises. But I did assure him that who ever I might have a crush on in the future, I wouldn’t likely be able to choose, as matters of the heart are just a sort of natural occurrence. But that who ever the person is, they will be a good person for both of us. And then I drank me some beet juice and decided that it was high time he was off to the wonderful world of bed.